Theresa Caputo says it gets better.
Life after death, that is.
“Life on the other side in soul form is different,” TV’s “Long Island Medium” says. “When our soul leaves the physical body, it is immediately at peace. There is no hatred on the other side. There is no negativity. That’s here in the physical world.”
In the afterlife, Caputo says, those souls grow and learn and, often, they’ll want to apologize to their loved ones.
That’s where the bubbly blonde comes in. She’s the messenger.
Hailing from Hicksville, N.Y., Caputo says she has heard voices since she was 4: “I thought everyone heard dead people. I thought it was normal.”
In her early 20s, Caputo suffered from anxiety and went to a therapist to learn how to deal with it. When that didn’t seem to work, she moved on to a spiritual healer and discovered she was suppressing the energy from what she calls “Spirit.” The teacher showed her how to channel Spirit and help others.
That led to private and group readings, the TLC series and an arena show called “Theresa Caputo Live! The Experience.”
There, she says, 5,000 or more people could be in search of answers. Everyone doesn’t get a “reading,” but often one attendee’s experience could give answers to others’ questions. “When I’m channeling a soul, I know that these messages are not only helping and affecting the family I’m talking to. They’re changing the lives of up to 50 other families at one time.”
Caputo, as one might imagine, is not without her detractors. Various media outlets have questioned her ability and wondered if she’s just well-prepped before a show.
No, she says, “I’m just able to connect. Spirit is always present. Spirit always has something to say, whether it’s a little hello, whether it’s a choice or decision you’re making or whether it’s something from the past that’s a healing message. Everyone comes to the experience for a different reason.”
Caputo says it’s not uncommon to get a message for someone “who doesn’t even know who I am. They’ll say, ‘My sister had this extra ticket and she made me come.’ I will pick this person out and be like, ‘Spirit is telling me you have no idea who I am.’ And they’ll say, ‘Yeah, how did you know that?’”
Caputo’s answer: “I have a little bit of a gift here. People don’t really understand what I do. They think it’s all talking to dead people – and they’re right. That’s what I do. But it’s so much more than that. I believe we all have that amazing ability to connect with our loved ones who have departed.”
Advanced skills, she says, lets her talk with other people’s deceased family members.
Caputo, who’s married and has two children, says she talks with her own departed relatives in ways many people do – she remembers what they might have said in similar circumstances. Others, however, aren’t as lucky. “They might not have known their loved ones. Maybe they died when they were young or maybe they didn’t communicate. I thought everyone had loving parents and grandparents and in-laws. I thought that was normal. But some people never heard the words, ‘I love you’ from them. Isn’t that terrible?”
The goal, Caputo says, is healing.
“I tell Spirit, ‘If you don’t have anything nice to say, don’t say anything at all.’ Life on the other side is different. Spirit might bring up a negative situation but they will bring things up to help you.
“What I’ve been shown – and what I believe – is God is a loving God.” On the other side, those souls learn how to see life through their living relatives’ eyes and, often, they’re willing to apologize.”
Caputo says that view gives her great hope. “Look, I’m not ready to die, but I know that when I do leave the physical world I’m going to be greeted by my loved ones and there truly is more to life than what’s here in the physical world.”
To continue to receive messages, the 40-something medium says she takes good care of herself, meditates and eats as cleanly as possible.
“The way I channel Spirit and handle Spirit changes every day,” she says. “Before when I went into the everyday world, people didn’t know who I was. Now, everybody knows who I am and they immediately want to talk.”
She has tried wearing disguses but, frequently, fans recognize her husband Larry and those Long Island nails.
“There are certain things you can’t cover up,” Caputo says with a laugh. “I was called out by a 10-year-old on a gift wrap line at Bloomingdale’s because of my nails.”